The Glimmer Project
Supporting women who have experienced pregnancy and newborn loss
Dr Ashleigh Smith
Creator of the Glimmer 3 week bereaved Mothers group
and The Glimmer Podcast
"You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair."
Old Chinese proverb
I'm so sorry that you've lost your little darling.
My name is Dr Ashleigh Smith and, like you, I’ve suffered more pain and sadness then I ever thought I could survive. My daughter Isla passed away when she was just 2 days old. My heart and my soul felt broken. I felt so alone.
Having worked as a medical doctor in Obstetrics for many years prior – I know the great highs and the crushing lows of childbirth. I’ve witnessed the great spectrum motherhood has to offer in my patients, and felt that losing my daughter was a painfully ironic tragedy.
It astounded me that after leaving hospital without my daughter in my arms, the medical and mental health systems didn’t have much on offer to help with the ravages of grief.
I tried everything.
I accessed the hospital supplied information pamphlets, the hotlines and the counselors. I joined large Facebook groups that I didn’t feel safe or comfortable to post in, and that triggered and saddened me every day. There were free support group ‘meet-ups’ but the members changed each time and I found my husband and I constantly having to retell our sad story at each meeting.
I was experiencing the most profound agony and the existing support structures weren’t even touching the sides – grief from losing a child is such a deep, deep sorrow.
A program to give you a glimmer of hope:
Do you find yourself wanting:
- more support
- to optimize your mind and body while managing this grief
- to connect with others in this situation
- to find peacefulness amidst the ravages of grief
- to connect in a more spiritual way with your beloved baby who has passed on
Well you have found the right place.
This is exactly why I created the online 3 week Glimmer Program.
The Glimmer Program is a unique program designed to support you and your well being through this cruel tragedy of miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss.
In the program, I will provide you with:
- grief management tools and coping strategies to navigate and weather the triggers and hardships to come.
- supply daily guided mindfulness meditations to allow you to find peacefulness and strength.
- connect you with a small group of other women who have suffered similar loss because peer support and sharing deep meaningful conversation is typically lacking through this time
May you find connection
May you find acceptance
May you be happy
Find out more The Glimmer Program
Enrollments are now open for the upcoming group
For women who have suffered miscarriage, stillbirth, newborn or child loss
Join the online Glimmer Program today - it is evidence based, created and managed by Dr Ashleigh Smith and will help you to find connection, peacefulness and ways to manage your grief after pregnancy or newborn loss.
Helpful reading material
Check out the most recent post for helping you manage your grief:
When someone dear to you suffers a pregnancy loss, it can leave you feeling desperate to help and offer support in anyway possible. Flowers are so beautiful but may not feel quite right for the situation, so here are some ideas to gift some one who has experienced pregnancy loss including miscarriage, stillbirth or new born baby death.
Gift card for food delivery service: a voucher allows the grieving family to access when needed
- a simple card of love, support and deep sympathy
Treading water - enduring and surviving the aftermath whilst in the hospital soon after Stillbirth or Neonatal loss
Take some long deep breaths. I know how you feel. The bottom of the universe has just fallen from beneath you. Just breathe for now. You are going to get through this.
Shrink your world
- to include only necessities and your core people
- discard the rest
- give your phone and laptop to someone else to either manage or turn off
- Immediate family and friends
- perhaps your extended family or friends can disseminate the news, so you don’t have to.
- on your self and...
Grief after stillbirth or neonatal loss is profound. The ravages of grief feel endless and unmanageable. You mourn for what might have been. Expectations don't meet reality. You miss your little darling, all day, every day. The grief comes in crashing waves and you ruminate on the 'what if's?' Grief emotions can vacillate quickly, with anger and guilt featuring heavily. Your relationship with friends and family members may be altered.
Resources for managing grief include:
- friends and...
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